In my last blog, Crying Out I shared with you how I have been dealing with MDD. The purpose of that piece was not to get sympathy, but shed light on mental health issues and how even the people you wouldn’t think are suffering are dealing with something. Since I shared that piece, I have received so many emails and messages of people saying that they were also dealing with the same thing. I know it is not popular to share certain things, but for me it was necessary. I wanted and still want people to know that help is out there to get and it’s critical for our well-being. You never have to suffer or deal with life alone.
I am happy that my blog encouraged others to get help and to know that they are not alone. I will continue to shed light on this and other issues with the hope that one day it becomes popular to get help.
As I stated in my last blog, we will walk through this thing together and that it is what inspired this blog. I would like to share with you my top five favorite things to do on these “low days”.
- Music – I play music; music allows me to slip pass the pain and feel what the artist was feeling at the time they wrote and recorded the piece. We know that music releases dopamine (the “feel good hormone”) and takes us to a happy place and I can attest to this. In the second paragraph of Meet Rose, I confess to you how I cannot dance, because I feel as though I have no rhythm. But when I am blasting my music (as loud as I can without disturbing my neighbors), singing at the top of my lungs like I have a record on the Top 100 chart, I am dancing all over the room and making faces that I should and will never make in public. I even look in the mirror and dance battle myself. Lmbo, I know right…seriously, who does that? I do! And I do this because in that very moment that I am singing and dancing off beat to the rhythm of my own song, I am happy and nothing else matters. So my dear friend, you turn that music on, blast it, sing and dance to your heart’s content because:
- Tea Meditation – I know, I know? What in the world is tea meditation? It’s actually exactly what it sounds like; it’s you taking the time to focus only on the tea that you are drinking and nothing else. You focus on the process of making the tea, pick your favorite mug, listen to the sounds that you hear from the water while it’s boiling and what it makes you feel, the color changes that occur as your tea is steeping, take in the aroma of the tea (I like to use herbal teas) and breathe in the peace that every sip of tea offers you in that very moment. There are many tea brands out there, but Yogi is by far my favorite because they offer little messages with each tea bag. I also take a moment to read the message and focus in on what I can do to apply the message to my day and life. And because I love music, I add a little meditation music. It is so much fun. I have to confess though; the first few times were hard because I was thinking, it’s tea! But, the process gets easier and I have learned to enjoy it because after all, it’s tea!
- Conversation with a friend – I like to text more than I like to talk on the phone (blame the 7 years of customer service). But seriously, I prefer to communicate via text when it’s personal stuff (business we have to talk..lol). I only really talk on the phone at length with a few people. So on those “low days” I call those girlfriends that I have designated as my “picker uppers” and they don’t even know that that is who they are to me. I know that when I talk to them I will either belly laugh, talk it out or both and when I hang that phone up, I will be feeling much better than when I called. Don’t get me wrong, my husband is great to talk to and I do talk to him but sometimes, I just need one of my girlfriends that get me like only another female can get me. So, I encourage you to get you a “picker upper” friend or two.
- Daily Affirmations – doing my daily affirmations was something that I did not start doing until 2 years ago. I see though that on those days that I forget to do them in the morning, the day may start off a little rocky. These are slightly different from prayers in the sense that you are making a statement of truth in which you want to manifest into your life. There are no requests, just statements. (Law of Attraction) Here are a few that I say daily:
- My name is Rose Kehinde and today is going to be a great day!
- I have favor with God and man.
- Rules are rearranged for me.
- In every version of my life story, I win!
You can make up your own or use some of these, but I encourage you to get some affirmations and make them a daily routine and see how it starts to change your day for the better.
- Natural Light and Therapeutic Smells –I am really bad about having lights on and even when I do, it’s pretty dim. I have black out curtains so no light comes in…I know, I know. In my defense, I purchased these after I had the stage 3 concussion and I got used to having it dark in my house. So since it’s usually dark in my house on these “low days”, I open the curtains, blinds and windows and let the bright natural light come in and permeate through the house. I do this even if it is a rainy day, the smell of the rain also stimulates my senses and makes me focus more on the weather rather than the negative feelings I am having. But, if it starts thundering, I shut that door, window, and blinds because: “when thunder roars you stay indoors”…lol. Just a little weather funny for those who know I love the weather channel. I also light a candle or burn incense to change the smell of the air. Some of my favorite scents that I like to burn are from Earthfare, click here to find a store near you. If you prefer not to burn incense, find some scented wax cubes or candles. Wal-Mart is my favorite place to purchase the wax cubes because they have them as cheap as $2 for a pack of 6 cubes and the cubes last a while. Whichever way you decide to get your smell on, do it and enjoy.
These are just a few things I like to do on those days that it seems like the overwhelming feeling of sadness is trying to take over. One thing I know about depression is you have to work to get out of it and because I am determined to kick it out of my life completely, I do what I must to accomplish that goal. My life is important and I have a purpose to help others and the only way that will happen, is if I am at my best. Depression who???? It is Rose Kehinde versus the “low days” and in my book, Rose Kehinde ALWAYS WINS.
I hope that you find my top five to be helpful for you. Even if you’re not dealing with mental health issues, incorporate some of these things into your daily journey and see if it brightens up your day even more.
I really had fun writing this piece, sharing with you what I do to combat those “low days”. I would love to hear back from you on some of the things you do; I am always looking for more positive things to add to my daily walk through this journey we call life. And please, share with me if you incorporate any of the above into your day. I would love to hear which one and how it helps you. Thank you as always for taking the time to read from my heart. Remember that you are here for a purpose and together we can #BeFreeToLife.
I’m Rose Kehinde, founder of Rose Colored Lenses. My mission and goal is to create a platform that allows us to help each other on this journey called life. As you read from me, you will see my heart and in turn I hope to see yours as well. This journey called life requires us all to work together.